We give numerous chances to the people we love. No matter how badly they hurt us, after a certain period of time, we forgive them because we love them, we want them to be in our lives and we keep giving them chances to improve, changes to mend their mistakes. No, I am not saying you should not forgive them and keep angry. All I am saying is, there should be a limit to bend to save a relationship. May it be in friendship or between lovers, or any other relationship, happiness of both matters. You should never feel like a fool who is been taken for granted, it should be mutual, never one sided. You are not a perfect person, you might make mistakes too, you might hurt your loved ones too so don’t just think like a victim, you are a culprit too.
Confused? Well all I am trying to say is, neither hurt someone you love more than a certain extent nor allow a loved one to hurt you beyond your limit. Yes, there is a limit to everything, even your patience. Before reaching to a break point and erupting like a volcano which might result in a ‘forever- cliché’ talk it out, communicate to them that their certain action had hurt you. Don’t keep waiting for your limit, don’t keep forgiving every mistake just because you love them, you don’t want to lose them because this is not going to work in a long run.
But well, it doesn’t mean you should be zero tolerant towards anything, even a small casual fight should be made an issue, no it should not. But never forgive too much, it will not be appreciated by the other person instead it will be ‘expected’ out of you, every time. “Oh he/ she can’t keep angry on me, he/ she loves me a lot”, never let your loved one to get such impression of you. Of course you love them; you want to be with them till a lifetime but not on the cost of loosing yourself, losing your importance, your self-respect in their eyes. So decide the limit up to what you can take, never let it cross and reach too much because ‘too much’ can harm so much and sometimes the change, the loss is irreversible.
No that’s not a warning but hey if the shoe fits in! 😉