Hearing people say and talk so much about their 3am friend, nowadays, I was wondering whether I am too boring or unlucky to never had my ‘3am’ kind of friend? Well in school and college days we used to wake up till late nights, study and discuss on conference calls past midnight, giggle, gossip and got scolding by parents almost every night but lately since a routine life got over, I found myself to be the only one without a ‘3am’ buddy. Although I have a best friend whom I can share everything but she was caught in a schedule where we never talked late night.
But life is unplanned and I found one too, rather too unexpectedly. One night, sleep was far away from me , I was wondering about my future plans, thinking hard about the mistakes of past, getting sentimental over broken friendships and relationships, I was going through the contact list of my phone. Thinking, analyzing whom should I talk to my eyes caught one name and I texted him seeing online, but as soon as I did I felt a hint of regret ‘what if he doesn’t reply!’ I could not undo my action and much to my surprise he rather casually replied and asked why I wasn’t sleepy. And suddenly a series of text exchanged between us, and that night I finally found my 3am, no better my 1am buddy.
Night is the time we come out of our shell, we think, analyze, confront, we feel vulnerable, we feel insecure, we feel fearful, we throw away the mask we always wear in front of ‘others’ and just become ourselves. And that time, we need a shoulder to lean on, an ear to hear it all without the fear of being judged, a heart that will absorb every word we spoke and never bring it again unless we want to talk about it. Too much to ask for? Well, maybe but believe me all of us deserve this 1am or 3am friend. To share our weirdest of dreams, fanatic wishes, overambitious desires, everything ranging from a silly crush to a career dream, from complaints to confessions, just everything.
I shared my experience to make you realize, others feel exactly like you do, others go through all what you do or have been through. Instead of complaining, wishing, thinking you are unlucky, give it a chance, initiate a conversation with someone you least expected it to grow, yes, sometimes it’s easier to open up to a stranger. Who knows someone is too shy to initiate and waiting for a step forward from you. And alas, I pray and wish on stars tonight may you too find your midnight friend, a personal diary kind of friend, the bond you would cherish all your life and if you are lucky and already have him/her, never lose such people, they are a blessing from above!