“It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it.”
To build a stature, it takes a lot of time and hard work. But it takes just a single wrong step to ruin it all in just a blink of an eye.
“We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.”
There is an immense need of people whom you can trust. People with whom you can be as open as possible. It seems like a very simple task to have a conversation with someone and tell them everything about yourself, but it is not that simple really! It actually takes a lot of valour and with valour, comes with a lot of peril.
“The leaders who work most effectively, it seems to me, never say ‘I.’ And that’s not because they have trained themselves not to say ‘I.’ They don’t think ‘I.’ They think ‘we’; they think ‘team.’ They understand their job to be to make the team function. They accept responsibility and don’t sidestep it, but ‘we’ gets the credit…. This is what creates trust, what enables you to get the task done.”
In this world, the leader who is more effective, never thinks only of himself. He always thinks of the people and himself as a whole themselves. They believe in teamwork! They never utter the word ‘I’. Instead, they always say the word ‘We’. The leaders accept the responsibilities and do not avoid it. And when the success comes, they give all the credits to the team. And this is what creates trust between the leader and his team members. This empowers them to get the task done quickly as a result.
“Leadership requires five ingredients; brains, energy, determination, trust, and ethics. The key challenges today are in terms of the last two–trust and ethics.”
The basic constituents of leadership are the brain to think the idiosyncratic, vitality to keep up with the requirements of the task, determination to keep going, strong work morality and most importantly, trust.
“I don’t trust anybody. Not anybody. And the more that I care about someone, the more sure I am they’re going to get tired of me and take off.”
You should not trust anybody, not even a single person. It is an actuality that the more you care about someone, the more they are gonna get bored of you and take off breaking your heart. And once your trust is broken, you will be left suffering from pain. You will hardly ever trust anyone in the future and that will only bring you more agony.
“Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him.”
If you want to let someone know that you trust him, you must place your responsibility on him. There are very little things really, that lets a person know that you trust him.
“It was one thing to make a mistake; it was another thing to keep making it. I knew what happened when you let yourself get close to someone, when you started to believe they loved you: you’d be disappointed. Depend on someone, and you might as well admit you’re going to be crushed, because when you really needed them, they wouldn’t be there. Either that, or you’d confide in them and you added to their problems. All you ever really had was yourself, and that sort of sucked if you were less than reliable.”
It is a whole different thing to make a gaffe, and it is a whole another thing to repeat it all over again. When you let yourself to get close to someone and care about someone, you start to believe that they love you. And, once you start to believe this, you will be disappointed. When you are going to depend on someone, you might just as well admit that you are going to get crushed by the very person you trust. When you will need them immensely, they will not be there and you will probably be a just another additional problem to the problems they already have in their life.
“Trust is built with consistency.”
Trust is exquisite and it comes by doing staunch things again and again. You have to prove yourself to be trusted.
“When the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective.”
When there is too much trust between two people, the communication is facile, expeditious, understood very easily and is often effective.
“To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.”
Trust is mightier than love. You can love anybody, but you can scarcely trust anybody.
“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”
When you are not sure whether to trust a person or not, the best way is to trust that person and see the result for yourself.
“Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.”
A person who is remiss with the truth even in the smallest of things, can never be trusted for the things that are more important.
“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”
You should always have fortitude to trust and love one more time even after being deceived previously. You should not give the punishment of someone from the past to someone in the present who really cares for you, loves you and can be trusted.
“It is mutual trust, even more than mutual interest, that holds human associations together.”
When there is a mutual trust between a group of people, that group sticks together. This is the most important thing in any association to successfully keep it together. The associations run only on trust more than usual interest.
“Trust, but verify.”
You should trust a person, but you should always be wise and keep checking if you are right and have made a right decision.
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”
You should always trust yourself. You must create yourself into someone who will be forever happy in life doing the things you actually love. Even if you have the slightest of possibilities to do what you want to do in life, work hard for it and turn them into achievements.
“Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something.”
If somebody thinks that the world is always cheating on him and hoodwinking him, he is probably right. If you are ever trusted by someone, you will know. The feeling of being trusted is a supercalifragilisticexpialidocious feeling! (and yes, that’s actually a word. Ha ha.)
“Who can I trust? You have to invest in somebody and chances are you’re probably going to invest in somebody who’s going to deceive you. I’ve been conned a couple of times, but now I’m a little more savvy.”
You will come across a time in life when you will ask the question “Whom should I trust?” Then, you will probably end up trusting the wrong person. You will get swindled by that person and it will break your heart. But as time goes, you will trust somebody again and this time, you will be a little more savvy and conscious while doing it.
“Depend upon yourself. Make your judgement trustworthy by trusting it. You can develop good judgement as you do the muscles of your body – by judicious, daily exercise. To be known as a man of sound judgement will be much in your favour.”
You must depend on yourself and trust yourself. Whatever you think, never be in dubiety about yourself. Make your judgements trustworthy by trusting yourself while you judge. It’s pretty easy really, and you actually do it every day by trusting the muscles in your body. Similarly, you just have to trust your gut. And, once you adept at that, you will be known as the man of a trustworthy judgement, which will be in colossally helpful to you in life.
“The toughest thing about the power of trust is that it’s very difficult to build and very easy to destroy. The essence of trust building is to emphasize the similarities between you and the customer.”
Trust is a wily thing. The toughest part about the trust is that it’s very difficult to build and extremely easy to destroy. And, once the trust is destroyed, it can never be established to the fullest. The key to effective trust building is to give importance to the similarities between you and the other person. It can be used for business purposes, it can be used in love and it can be used almost anywhere in life.